A LOOK AT OUR LOSSESSOME THOUGHTS ON OUR LOSSES AND BASIC NEEDS
As I attempted to write my post the past few days to cover the theory, by Elisabeth Kubler Ross, on the 5 Stages of Loss, denial, bargaining, anger, depression and acceptance, I realized I needed to change my topic. My intention was to help with awareness regarding these stages of loss so that all of us suffering with chronic pain would know this is normal and that we are not alone in all these emotions and behaviors. But, as I was writing about the stages of loss I realized I needed to address the losses themselves first and why they have so much effect on our lives.
Dealing with the horrendous unrelenting pain is bad enough for us all! But then to deal with so many losses, as well as the horrible emotions due to all these losses we endure, can seem unrelenting and leave us feeling as if a part of us has died. It is hard to realize all THIS is a part of our "new “normal!”
Dissecting all the effects that chronic pain has on my life the last 4 years with all the losses it brought and trying to put them into words is pretty daunting! I just have to admit this is very difficult to write about. Please know I am not complaining! I just want to be real in letting you know that trying to zero in on one particular area to write about, when so many subjects to cover are flooding my mind, as well as being in pain, is extremely challenging! As I attempt to break down all the losses to write about for the next post on "The 5 Stages of Loss," many emotions I went through just kept coming back! We really do need to take a look at them, as hard as that is to do, and see why they affect our lives so drastically. Then we can look at how to rebuild from there!
MASLOW’S HIERACHY OF NEEDS
Maslow’s theory, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs, basically defines that each person has definite needs that are common to all people. Need is defined as something that is desirable, useful or necessary. These human needs are physiological and psychological conditions that an individual must meet to be able to meet a state of health or well-being. In theory, we require to have the basic needs met before we can go on to the next level. As these definite needs, “that are common to all people,” are met we then can grow and eventually find self-actualization.